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Transcribed Sermons / Dealing with unpleasant issues

Dealing with unpleasant issues

publish date : 2014-11-20 | Views : 2538
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Indeed all praise is due to Allah, we praise Him, seek His help, and ask for His forgiveness. We seek refuge in Allah from the evil of our selves and actions. Whoever Allah guides, none can mislead, but he whom He leaves astray   you will never find for him a protecting guide. I bear witness that none is worthy of worship except Allah, and I bear witness that Muhammad is His servant and Messenger. May Allah’s peace and blessings be on Muhammad, his companions, and those who follow him in goodness until the day of Judgment.

As to what follows:

Fear Allah O believers! For indeed the fear of Allah the Exalted is the greatest reason for happiness, success and feeling at ease. Thus there is no way to attain the enjoyment of the world and the happiness of the Hereafter except by following the path of the righteous whom Allah stated that, “no fear shall come upon them nor shall they grieve” [Yunus 10: 62]. O Allah! make us to be among your pious servants, successful party, and righteous allies, O Lord of the worlds!.

O people! Indeed Allah the Exalted created this world and made it an abode of trials and tribulations. Allah the Exalted tests His creation different types of tests and trials in happiness and adversity, and in times of pleasure and displeasure. All the things that afflict and affect people are trials. Allah says, “We have certainly created man into hardship” [al-Balad 90: 4].

Indeed Allah the Exalted created the world in this manner to remind people that they are not in an eternal abode, or an abode of permanent stay. Rather, it is a transient abode, which quickly passes and changes. It is a dwelling with many pains, worries and distress. Causes of anxiety in it are more than the reasons for relaxation, happiness and stability.

Truly a person, whether he is a Muslim or a disbeliever suffers in this world. Allah says, “We have certainly created man into hardship” [al-Balad 90: 4]. This is a description for every person who lives in this world.

A poet said:

“The world was created in a turbid state and you want it/ to be clear of dirt and muddiness

A person who forces days to be against their nature/ is seeking for an ember  in water

People become distinct and different through the way they deal with this reality, and their reaction to causes of distress, anxiety and grief which surround them from all angles. There are people who surrender to these troubles, unpleasant things and sorrows, and they become victims who are controlled by these things. Other people deal well these things by reducing their effects, overlooking their evils, and overcoming their obstacles, so as to attain a life which has some happiness and tranquility.

Despite the different types of progressiveness, amenities, and luxury implements, that we will with in this age, the rate of restlessness, anxiety and all the other types of distress is increasing steadily and constantly going up. This necessitates that whoever wants tranquility and happiness should search for their causes, and look for them in their right place. He should not stop at resemblances of the real thing, rather, he should go beyond that and reach the realities and the essence, because you may see a person who is apparently happy in his outward appearance but he would be suffering internally from different types of troubles and afflictions.

Indeed there is no happiness except by obeying Allah the Exalted. The greatest reason for happiness is to turn to Allah the Exalted. Our Exalted Lord, Glorified and praised be He, said, “Whoever does good whether male or female and he is a believer, We will most certainly make him live a happy life, and We will  surely give them their reward [in the Hereafter] according to the best of what they used to do” [An-Nahl 16: 97]. Through deep-rooted faith which is followed by good deeds, the servant can easily bear the distress, troubles, and  Allah’s painful decrees. Such a person’s condition will- as the hadith stated-  be that “if he has an occasion to feel delight, he thanks (God), thus there is a good for him in it, and if he gets into trouble and shows resignation (and endures it patiently), there is a good for him in it.” [Muslim (2999)]. Thus a believer is patient is patient in adversity, thankful in times of ease and he attains good in all the pleasant things that happen to him, and all the unpleasant things that he faces. Everything happens by Allah’s decree and predestination. Your Exalted Lord said, “Indeed, all things We created with predestination” [al-Qamar 54:49]. So, why should a person worry, and why should he be anxious? Allah said, “And Allah has full power and control over His Affairs, but most of men know not” [Yusuf 12: 21].

The believer who sees Allah’s decree and predestination, and sees the actions of His Lord, knows that He does not give him except good things, and that the different types of hardships result in great good, and that if there was nothing in them save the forgiveness of sins- and how many people are overburdened by sins!- that would have been sufficient for a person to look for happiness in unpleasant situations, to expect mercy in punishment, and to regard a calamity and misfortune as a blessing.

O believers! Truly one of the greatest things that help a person to face causes of anxiety, worry and trouble in this world is that he should know that he has to come across what he does not like. Thus whoever makes himself get used to face what he detests in this world, and knows that he will not come across what he likes in all conditions and places, rather, he has to encounter trouble, distress, things which are contrary to what he loves and desires; that would be the most helpful thing in assisting him to deal with things which he does not like on his own self, his children, his job and the whole of his world.  He will hope for good, watch out for what he detests, and he will be ready for the crises and distress that he faces, because each of us has troubling issues which disturb his life.

A poet said:

“If,  on several occasions, you do not drink water because it has some dust particles/You will be thirsty, for no one has a drinking source which is perfectly clean .”

[i.e., You have to put up with bad times, no one's life is void of bad times.]

Each of us has worries and hardships which trouble his mind, for which he needs Allah’s help, and dealing with these problems in a manner which removes and lightens them.

A poet said:

“Everyone I meet is complaining about his circumstances/ If I only knew the person who is having a trouble-free life!

O believers! A thing which dissipates anxiety and discontent is that person should abandon illusions and fantasies, because a quarter, or rather many of the worries, troubles and anxiety in people’s lives are a result of illusions and fantasies which have no link to reality. People have different illusions and fantasies and suffer because of them, especially those which are concerned with future events. Many people fear for their future and what will happen in the unknown coming times. This impedes them from dealing well with the current situation, or planning for the future. Such a person is a like a person who is afraid and cannot take a single step forward. Rather, he is in the same place, fearful, and he is expecting harm from everywhere. He has wasted his present time, destroyed his future, and did  not hope for good. Allah the Exalted said, “And more appropriate for them [would have been] obedience and good words” [Muhammad 47:20-21]. That is, in the present time, it is better for us to be engaged in what is beneficial for our hears and religion. Allah says, “but when the affair becomes settled, then if they remain true to Allah it would certainly be better for them” [Muhammad 47: 21].

O brothers and believers! Avoid surrendering to illusions and fantasies, rather, fear and trust Allah the Exalted, because the greatest cause for attaining needs and safety from fears is that a person should have great trust in Allah the Exalted. Allah says, “And put your trust in Allah if you are believers indeed” [al-Maidah 5: 23].

O Allah! Guide us, and save us from the evil of our selves. Help us to obey you. Let our hearts feel at ease in closeness to you, and fill them with your love and reverence. I say these words, and I seek Allah’s forgiveness for myself and for you. Seek Allah’s forgiveness, for indeed he is the Oft-Forgiving, Most-Merciful.

 

The second khutbah

I praise Allah with the praise of a thankful person. I praise Him in good and bad times. I cannot enumerate His praises, He is as He has praised Himself. I bear witness that none is worthy of worship except Allah Who has no partner. I bear witness that Muhammad is Allah’s servant and Messenger. May Allah’s blessings be upon Muhammad, his family, his companions and those who follow his ways in goodness until the day of Judgment.

As to what follows:

Fear Allah, O believers! “O you who have believed, fear Allah as He should be feared and do not die except as Muslims [in submission to Him]” [Al-‘Imran 3:102].

Servants of Allah! The best thing that a person is granted for facing the different types of unpleasant things that he encounters in the world is patience. In an authentic hadith from Abu Sa’id the Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “Nobody can be given a blessing better and greater than patience" [al-Bukhari (1469)]. The best thing that you can be given is a patient soul, so that you will be patient when you face disagreeable circumstances, and you will deal with them with perseverance and be confident that they will not last forever, because it is impossible for misery to be permanent. The laymen said, “Misery does not last forever.” This is how a person should deal with all situations which he does not like.

Adversity, even if its long, and hardship even if it extends for a long time, will certainly end because it is impossible for a situation to be permanent. This feeling opens the doors of hope, and helps a person to be patient. With patience, a person is able to overcome terrible situations and difficulties.

Another thing which helps a person to attain happiness is  that he must be patient, and whoever tries to be patient, Allah will give him patience. There is a type of patience which is an inborn trait which Allah gives a person, and there is patience acquired by a person’s striving until he reaches the ranks of the patient. “Surely the patient will only be paid their reward in full without reckoning” [Az-Zumar 39: 10].

O Allah! make us to be among your patient servants, O Lord of the worlds!

Indeed a thing which helps in dealing with difficulties and misfortunes, is that each problem should be dealt with according to its stature. Many people encounter small problems but they turn them into big problems which prevent them from proceeding with their lives, and living a stable and a carefree life.

Indeed if a person deals with a problem according to its stature and does not exaggerate it, or trivialize it, rather, he gives it the required concern, attention, and thinking, this will be a cause of his happiness and feeling at ease. There are people who exaggerated small problems and they impede their lives, whereas others trivialize big problems and comfort themselves.

A poet said:

“Small issues are magnified by small-minded people/ and big issues are regarded as small by great people.”

Undoubtedly consoling the afflicted person by belittling his affliction is one of the greatest means of overcoming problems.

 O believers! Indeed Allah has commanded us to remember Allah, and he made His remembrance one of the greatest causes of feeling at ease and acquiring the required steadfastness on goodness. Allah the Exalted said, “O you who have believed, when you encounter a company [from the enemy forces], stand firm” [ al-Anfal 8: 45]. Then He told us the cause of steadfastness and He said, “and remember Allah much that you may be successful” [Al-Anfal 8: 45].

Indeed one of the major things that helps the heart to be steadfast, and dispels different types of worries and troubles, is that a person should enjoy the remembrance of Allah the Almighty, the Oft-Forgiving. Remembrance of Allah cause hearts to be tranquil. Allah the Exalted said, “Verily, in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find rest” [Ar-Ra’d 13: 28].

Truly a heart needs rest and sustenance. The sustenance of the heart is the remembrance of Allah the Exalted. We have been negligent in the remembrance of Allah. Who among us thanks Allah much? Indeed many people remember their Exalted Lord for a little time, in their prayers and acts of worship. How about those who have neglected prayer, and do not adhere to the limits that were set by Allah? Truly, they have deprived themselves of a great portion of the remembrance of Allah which strengthens the hearts, give life to bodies, and saves souls from the evils of the devil’s control.

O believers! Indeed the remembrance of Allah is a great key which I advise you to adopt. Therefore do not deprive yourselves of it. Remember Allah a lot like he commanded you when He said, “O you who have believed, remember Allah with much remembrance. And glorify His Praises morning and afternoon [the early morning (Fajr) and 'Asr prayers]” [al-Ahzaab 33: 42].  Thus a believer remembers Allah in the early morning, evening, late afternoon, the early part of the day,  in all the times and conditions. If he does this he will be happy, his heart will be tranquil and he will feel at ease. “Verily, in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find rest” [Ar-Ra’d 13: 28].

The least amount of remembering Allah that a can person can engage in is to utter the prescribed remembrances [athkaar] in the five daily prayers and after them, the athkaar of the morning and the evening, the athkaar of sleep and waking up. Indeed the devil ties three knots on the lower part of a person’s neck when he sleeps. When he wakes up-look at the effect of remembering Allah- and remembers Allah, performs ablution and prays, those three knots will be untied, and he begins his morning in a happy and refreshed mood; otherwise, he gets up in bad spirits and a sluggish state."

O Allah! Guide us to the truth, save us from the evil of our selves, save us from the whisperings of the devils O Lord of the words! O Allah! make us feel at ease, and grant us the ability to remember you, thank you and render your rights. Our Lord, we have wronged ourselves and if you do not forgive us, we will surely be among the wrongdoers. O Allah! grant us safety in our countries. Guide our leaders and rulers, and grant authority over us to those fear you, those who are pious and follow your commands, O Lord of the worlds!

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